Breaking the Mould: Becoming Who You Were Meant to Be

For the longest time, I didn’t even realize how much of my life had been shaped by unseen rules. Not the obvious ones—like laws or school regulations—but the subtle ones. The ones no one explicitly tells you but somehow, you just know you’re supposed to follow.

From childhood, we’re handed a script: go to school, get good grades, choose a “respectable” career, get a job, settle down, and fit in. Don’t be too different. Don’t ask too many questions. Don’t make people uncomfortable. And if you somehow don’t fit neatly into this system, life quickly finds a way to break and reshape you until you do.

But what if you were never meant to fit in?

I’ve come to see how easily people get absorbed into a system they never actively chose. Creativity and innovation are sacrificed at the altar of conformity. Outliers—those with a different perspective, an unconventional gift, or a unique way of thinking—are often discarded or, worse, pressured into shrinking themselves to fit.

Yet history has proven that those who truly make an impact are often the ones who refuse to be boxed in. The ones who disrupt. The ones who challenge. The ones who, for a moment, might be seen as outcasts but ultimately shape the world in ways no one else could.

Now, don’t get me wrong—rules and routines have their place. They create structure, discipline, and a foundation. But they were never meant to drain out your uniqueness. They should work for you, not against you.

Forget the Rules—Find Yourself

One of the most liberating things you can do in this season is to forget the rules—at least long enough to question them. Ask yourself:

What standards am I living by?

Who told me I had to do things this way?

Is this actually my path, or did I inherit it from someone else?

Does this belief, expectation, or routine serve me—or is it limiting me?

The world doesn’t need another copy-and-paste leader. It needs the unique expression of who you are, the special deposit God placed inside you to govern your specific territory—whatever that may be.

So, maybe this month, spend some intentional time with yourself. Sit with God. Discover and rediscover who you are in His light. Peel back the layers of conditioning and let go of anything that no longer serves you. The world doesn’t need you to fit in. It needs you to show up—fully, authentically, and powerfully.

The real change-makers? They don’t follow the mould. They break it.